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  The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King (2003)

  by Sassy in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  we just bought tickets online last night to go see it.... the first showing is at midnight tuesday night.. woo hoo!

  can't wait!!

  is anyone else planning to go??

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  Doubtfully Yours

  Hi y'all!

  I'm checking out this moving over the weekend too! With or without hubby, and I already told him so. He changed the topic when I mentioned it.

  I've liked the 2 previous ones. Hope I like this one too!

  DY
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  my story and why I'm here

  by little1 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i?ve been a lurker for awhile and a member for a little while, and i?d like to tell you about myself and why i?m here.

  i was looking for information, comfort and explanations for what happened in my life and i?ve found all that and more here---thank you all so much for your contributions, words of wisdom and humor.

  3 years ago, almost 4, i was a divorced mother of 3 just getting my life together after having been married to a raging alcoholic for over 13 years.

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  Doubtfully Yours

  Wow, L1, what a story!!!

  I'm sorry about your broken heart. Be careful with joining the religion just to still be by his side; in the process, speaking from experience, you'll lose yourself. It's a very stressful lifestyle.

  Nurse your broken heart for a while and move on. By reading your story it seems that he's been wishy-washy about the whole religious stuff, perhaps he's been heavily influenced from within. Believe me those influences are pretty strong. But in the end, if he really does love you, it's just a matter of time 'til he comes back to you.

  Wish you the best. Be strong.

  DY
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  Some Of My Story

  by Doubtfully Yours in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  jws is all religious life i?ve ever known, since early childhood.

  my grandmother was one of those discouraged when the 1975 expectations weren?t fulfilled; since then she became more and colder in the trail ?til one day she disassociated herself in writing and she?s never looked back.

  she lives happily by what little i know about her.

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  Doubtfully Yours

  Jeff S.,

  Yes, I'm reconnecting with my non-JW side of the family and they're all very nice people. I'll be just fine in that respect.

  As for my fade, it promises to be long and drawn out since my family and I are so well known and liked. Although, now that I think about it, we've recently moved to a new area and since I haven't been quite the enthusiastic good little Witness I used to be; so, maybe after all it won't be that big a deal to most. Maybe they're expecting my departure sooner than I imagine.

  I already feel 'marked' by most when I do attend meetings or events; that's a horrible feeling, and one of the very reasons why I make it a point to be almost the last one in and first one out.

  I also feel they're trying to "help" me; just the other day a 'ball-of-fire' regular pioneer lady came up to me and after giving me a very nice and warm greeting asked me if I had any afternoon free that we could go out on service. I then told her with the biggest grin that all my afternoons and evenings were busy. She sure hasn't given me such warm greetings since. Pretty sure that all the elders' and MS' wives, prompted by their husbands, will try to give me a lift so that my hubby can join the gang of VIP. IT AIN'T HAPPENING ON MY ACCOUNT.

  Thanks for letting me unload.

  DY
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  Some Of My Story

  by Doubtfully Yours in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  jws is all religious life i?ve ever known, since early childhood.

  my grandmother was one of those discouraged when the 1975 expectations weren?t fulfilled; since then she became more and colder in the trail ?til one day she disassociated herself in writing and she?s never looked back.

  she lives happily by what little i know about her.

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  J,

  Thanks for your kinds words.

  Yes, I'm taking it rather slow. This past Wednesday I had to attend the meeting because I didn't feel strong enough to make it through one of my hubby's tantrums, and we had a pretty nice day 'til the evening rolled around so I compromised and went; while getting ready I made myself be late so, since he wants to be there 30 mins before the meeting starts, he left me to go on my own car once I finished. I then purposely took my sweet time and showed up like 2 mins prior to them saying 'please take your seats', and then proceeded to leave like 2 mins right after the 'amen'. So that's my tactic for the days that I have to attend because I don't want a fall out with hubby.

  I continue to just associate and give my regards to only the 'spiritually weak ones'. Haven't let the proverbial 'cat out of the bag' yet with my doubts and my lack of faith, but many identify with me in the sense that there's more to life than just the WTBTS and their theories.

  Something that I have going for me is that my parents are up there in age, and they're 'understanding' of my behavior; they don't bug me as much as they could, I guess. Perhaps is because they need me too much to upset me so.

  Will keep you all posted from the 'inside', although it may be with a different twist since it's the Spanish side of the house.

  Thanks all for your support.
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  Some Of My Story

  by Doubtfully Yours in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  jws is all religious life i?ve ever known, since early childhood.

  my grandmother was one of those discouraged when the 1975 expectations weren?t fulfilled; since then she became more and colder in the trail ?til one day she disassociated herself in writing and she?s never looked back.

  she lives happily by what little i know about her.

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  Doubtfully Yours

  Sorry. Had a terrible time with cut and paste and didn't post most of the story.

  But, to make it shorter, when the 'New Light' of the 1914 generation came out, that was the last straw for me. Since then, the WTBTS has been just another religious org for me. Also, since then I've been leading a double life, associating only with the 'spiritually weak' ones.

  Things lately have become hectic and stressful since my husband's conscience, of course after some talks with elders and others, has been bugging him and now he wants to straighten up and reach for more privileges within the cong. He's a great guy, but I just cannot commit the way he wants me to in the religion. I love him and I feel he loves me too, but his desire to please within the org is great and also the org is the only place where he's been love-bombed after the horrible childhood and young adulthood he had. So, to say the least, this religion means the world to him.

  Lately I've just been missing as many meetings as possible and turning in the lowest service time possible. This will not help him reach his goals and he's so upset about that.

  I have a long term plan that will sure set me free, but for now I must take it easy; my parents are very important to me still. I've started reconnecting with the non-JW side of the family. Been making more friends at work, and outside the org, really nice people too!

  Love all the support received on this website.

  DY
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  Some Of My Story

  by Doubtfully Yours in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  jws is all religious life i?ve ever known, since early childhood.

  my grandmother was one of those discouraged when the 1975 expectations weren?t fulfilled; since then she became more and colder in the trail ?til one day she disassociated herself in writing and she?s never looked back.

  she lives happily by what little i know about her.

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  Doubtfully Yours

  JWs is all religious life I?ve ever known, since early childhood. My grandmother was one of those discouraged when the 1975 expectations weren?t fulfilled; since then she became more and colder in the trail ?til one day she disassociated herself in writing and she?s never looked back. She lives happily by what little I know about her.
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  Thinking of becoming a JW - Need urgent honest advice!!!

  by natalienu in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have met a wonderful man but unfortunately he is a jw.

  i have never been interested or really ever been around any religion in my life so all of this right now is very fascinating to me.

  i have been thinking of studying to become one but am also having a hard time finding anything on the net that is positive about it.

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  Doubtfully Yours

  No, no, don't you go to any meetings.

  There's where they love-bomb you into confusion and submission. DON'T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  DY
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  Thinking of becoming a JW - Need urgent honest advice!!!

  by natalienu in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have met a wonderful man but unfortunately he is a jw.

  i have never been interested or really ever been around any religion in my life so all of this right now is very fascinating to me.

  i have been thinking of studying to become one but am also having a hard time finding anything on the net that is positive about it.

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  Doubtfully Yours

  Nata,

  Perhaps he's not that strong a JW because he's pursuing you as a mate. Perhaps he can understand that you'll be a neutral party. Oh, but then there's the love-bombing thing in the org that confuses so many into submission.

  Please bear in mind that there are many demands to meet, specially if your husband gets into the frame of mind of getting more privileges, and he will because they encourage it highly for males, and this will bring great stress in the marriage. Of course, unless you get into the same frame of mind and go along with it.

  Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, Nata, ruuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  DY
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  How many of you have a job?

  by Joker10 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this is a serious question.

  how many of you have jobs?

  from the number of posts and the times people complain on here, it looks that many of you don't.

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  Doubtfully Yours

  I have a very nice full time gig with the County. Great bunch of people, money wise it makes ends meet and the benefits are pretty neat too.

  DY
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  Just lost our parents... Part 2

  by 2escaped lifers in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  for part 1, see : http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/62447/1.ashx .

  well, my dad did his "elder" duty and called the elders in whose territory we now live.

  two of them came by to see us this past saturday morning.

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  Doubtfully Yours

  Wow! How courageous!!!

  Y'all got guts!!!

  DY